Response to Kendall #2

Obviously we’re not going to agree. We start from two different worldviews. You say trans women are men, at which point no dialog would make this conversation work.

If you see all women as women, arguments about female erasure or mysoginy make no sense in this context.

When I think of a lesbian considering whether to date or not date a particular type of woman because of physical attributes or a handicap, my exhortation to unpack that is very natural. Your insistence about the supposed shortcomings of the neo-vagina, for example. I have a friend who’s lost half of her vaginal canal to cancer. I know a woman whose vagina has lost a lot of sensitivity as a result of a spinal injury. Some women are born with no vaginal canal. Women who have birthed many children often have vaginas that look and feel a bit different than non-mothers. Which of these would a lesbian consider dating? That’s my thought process.

In your worldview, a trans woman is not, can never be, a woman. Nothing that I say fits that worldview.

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