Response to Ken
We probably have points of agreement.
My goal was not to be an apologist for Ms. McGowan on the subject of trans rights. She had never set herself up as an example of trans inclusiveness or as a committed ally. Her focus was elsewhere.
My goal was to say that Andi’s approach — aggressive, hostile and accusatory — was completely inappropriate, uncalled for, damaging, and a PR nightmare. You don’t scream accusations at a rape victim processing her trauma. And this was Rose’s event, her audience, her time. Stealing that from her is an ugly thing.
We don’t have to do ugly things in the name of trans rights. We don’t have to be hostile to make our point. And we should never, EVER attack a survivor for the supposed sin of not carrying us on her back.
We can be ugly, hostile, accusatory to our oppressors. McGowan may not be an ally, but she’s certainly not our oppressor.