Excellent points, wonderfully articulated. Misgendering, done out of ignorance out lack of awareness, is unfortunate. Misgendering as a punitive act is intolerable, especially when fine within our own ranks.
I’m going to add a link to your story on my article, “I Wasn’t ‘Annoyed’ At Your Misgendering Me,” as I think adds a layer to the story.
If you think there’s a fitting place in your piece to add a link to mine, please add one. 🙂