Parenting Trans Kids
How old were you when you knew you were a boy, a girl?
A common argument thrown at parents of transgender children is, “but aren’t they too young to know?”
This argument is flawed in a number of ways.
First of all, think about all of the ridiculous, over-the-top gender-reveal parties. Think of all the gendered toys. Think of the blue and pink baby rooms. Think of the gendered McToys. If indeed children are too young to know, then isn’t it perniciously harmful to force gender upon them as intently, as deliberately, as oppressively as most parents currently do?
Think also, when did YOU know you were the gender that you are? At…
Trans Visibility
A tweet is causing confusion and divisiveness
This tweet is making the rounds and causing divisiveness in trans women's groups.
A trans woman acquaintance of mine reposted it yesterday.
Here's my response to her:
"Womxn" is a valid inclusive spelling of the word "women."
It is a response to the spelling "womyn," which started out as a feminist effort to remove the word ‘men’ from a descriptor for women. Sadly, it was appropriated by the TERFs. "Womyn" is now TERFspeak, like "wbw." And "womxn" means ALL women — cis & trans.
A couple of interesting things about these words:
a) The word “man” did not originally mean…
Women’s Rights
The infuriating audacity of a despotic man talking about a “witch hunt”
Yes, let’s talk about witch hunts.
Witches were women.
Witch hunters & witch killers were men.
Witches Were Healers
Witches healed the sick, delivered babies, and largely kept to themselves.
Witches served the function of healers, fortunetellers, midwives, birth doulas and even death doulas. Witches taught young girls how to deal with their menses, and helped middle-aged women deal with peri-menopause. Witches were advocates for women’s needs.
Witches were women who didn’t want to be married off to the butcher, the baker or the candlestick maker. …
Gender Transition
An extremely personal, private decision that trans women often have to make/explain/justify publicly
This morning my friend Rose posted this on TikTok:
Trans women agonize over this.
We want so desperately to belong, to be ‘real women,’ to be normal.
“Born in the wrong body” has been our narrative. “Male parts,” they call them.
We’re not broken, and we’re not freaks. We’re a naturally occurring variant of human experience.
Just like albinos, or redheads, or left-handed people. Being ‘less frequent than’ doesn’t make us ‘less than.’
A Century of Cis Aspiration
For over a hundred years, we’ve been told the only path to full personhood, for us, is through surgeries. This comes from an outdated perspective of gender. Gender is not binary — it is a…
Website Launch News
A new Social Network allows women to talk freely about our bodies, our sexuality, our desire, kinks, relationships, and much more
“What is the silliest thing you’ve ever done with a penis?”
This is a thread we had just this week in the Smart Sluts Facebook group. And if you think the question is funny, the answers are hilarious — putting googly-eyes on it, making it speak with a French accent, dressing it in Barbie doll clothes, using it as a microphone and as a joystick.
The women in the Smart Sluts group know how to let their hair down. Another thread asked, “if your sex life was a movie, what would be the title?”
If your sex life was a movie, what would be the title?
Some of the responses:
- Home Alone
- Toy Story
- Frozen
- The Joker
- Love Story
- Mission Impossible
- Beauty and…
Push back against ignorance about vulvas & vaginas. We need places where women can talk about our bodies.
This tweet, created a Louisiana housewife and mother who claims to “spread positivity through Jesus Christ,” was first posted a few years ago, in July 2016. It keeps resurfacing, and each time it does, I am compelled to look at the comments.
Blatantly Inaccurate Body-Shaming
One would think that this blatantly inaccurate, body-shaming tweet would be met with derision. That we would all laugh together at the astronomical level of ignorance it conveys. Well, not so.
When I last looked at the comments, on a thread on Facebook, I was astounded to find two very common themes: One was boys, and men, loudly…
Gender Transition
The strange dilemmas of gender transition
My penis is shrinking and I don’t know what to make of that.
Yeah, I know. Even I think that’s a weird sentence.
The changing body
I’m a trans woman. I’ve been on HRT (hormone replacement therapy) for four and a half years. The estrogen & progesterone going into my body, and the testosterone blockers impeding the flow of testosterone in my body, have profoundly changes my anatomy and my body chemistry.
Many of these changes I was ready for. My libido definitely shifted — becoming an entirely different set of responses to sexual stimuli. I used to know something is stirring sexual…
On the heels of the disastrous SESTA/FOSTA, comes a new Bill that may shut down OnlyFans and cause massive harm to sex workers
RT — Originally posted by Ana @acvalens on Twitter
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By popular request I’m compiling a master post on SISEA, the bipartisan bill by @SenSasse & @SenJeffMerkley that would purge porn from social media and devastate sex workers’ income during a pandemic.
This fantastic @XBIZ story goes over the basics. The TLDR:
1) The bill targets any online platform that “hosts and makes available to the general public” porn. This essentially ranges from On|yFans to Twitter
2) The bill demands sites with porn institute strenuous verification and content moderation systems, such as a 24-hour platform hotline with a two-hour…
Bootie play should not hurt. Here’s how to do it right.
I run a sex-positive community for women. In my leadership role, I get to hear many women’s stories of discovery and gained self-confidence. It’s gratifying and fulfilling work.
The part that saddens me and frustrates me is to hear women tell tales of ‘enduring’ sexual activities, rather than enjoying them. And to hear so many women who carry fear and shame, heavy burdens that hinder their sexual experience and limit their sexual fulfillment.
I write these articles in an effort to break down this fear and shame.
(Note: I write my articles for women, and much of this article describes…
Cassie Brighter
Activist. Public speaker. Writer. Community Organizer. Mom. Creator & Host, Empowered Trans Woman Summit. Managing Editor, EmpoweredTransWoman.com
